Hey everyone. At the time of this writing it is Friday night but this post will appear Saturday afternoon. I got a job so I’m going to be very busy during the next few days.
Today, since Saturday and Sunday are wildcard days, I want to talk about love, relationships and all the sort of stuff that I hate to talk about. I have a character study you might find interesting.
I want to know if love is truly blind. If you are someone who has no problem getting the gorgeous girl and are accusomed to it, can love knock you on your ass and make you change your standars? Or did you just flirt too hard and now you got yourself all hot and bothered?
There are people out there who have the gift of charm. They don’t necessarily use it all the time or on purpose but on the rare occasion they do decide to charm someone purposefully the person being charmed never stands a chance.
I saw this happen today. This guy is usually very reserved and doesn’t go out with the intention of charming anyone. But today he found someone he couldn’t help but put the charm on. And by the way, once he put the charm on not only did his intended “victim” swoon but anyone in his path did as well. It was unbelievable. I observed and studied him very closely to try to figure out how exactly this whole process worked. I believe that when it was all over his charm came back to him with unintended consequences.
He was being trained for a job at the place I now work at. I noticed that when he first came in he wasn’t pleased to be there. He was surrounded by employees who couldn’t have been over 9 years old or so it looked. He had an attitude and became even more smug when he met his supervisor. But then something was triggered in him. All of the sudden it was as if he couldn’t help but try to win over his boss (who wasn’t much older than him if she was at all). He obviously wasn’t trying to make her attracted to him but only wanted to gain favor with her in order to make his time at work a little easier. He obviously got more than he bargained for.
As his boss explained things to him and the other new employees he asked her questions and somehow was able to make it seem as though they were work-related while still extracting personal information from her. It was like he had this all planned out. But he didn’t. It was obvious by the expression that crossed his face for only a split second that some kind of instinct had been activated within him. A latent program for seducing anyone he pleased. Rather than panicking on the inside he decided to go with it, and thats when the trouble started.
Within a frame of a couple of hours he had managed to become as close as two old friends with his boss. She struggled to appear as an authority figure to him and spoke to him as an equal. His charm morphed into subtle flirtation and she responded in kind, getting quite close to him and gazing, not staring or looking, directly into his eyes as she spoke. She would talk with him in a quiet tone, forcing the two of them to get close, seperately from the other trainees yet still right in front of them, often brushing against his leg or touching his arm as she spoke.
She had come in from Florida to help open the new store they worked at and would only be there for a couple of months. She quickly started to move the hours old relationship from an at-work setting to an out of work and personal setting. She tested the waters by asking him what he knew about the Chicago area wanting suggestions and quite obviously hoping he would offer to escort her on a tour of what is arguable the greatest city in America if not the world. They made plans to go ice skating on the frozen over streets once the storm from she learned about on TV arrived.
The two of them had gotten closer than I have ever seen two people get in such a short time. They developed a relationship that showed the maturity of months within hours. When the shift was over and everyone had gone him this guy wasn’t able to leave what happened at work, well, at work. As hard as he tried he couldn’t shake the encounter and brought it with him into his personal life. He was confused. The girl was cute. But she wasn’t what he was used to. She wasn’t that girl in the room that made everyone turn their head and stare. She did have an intangible quality he couldn’t put out of his mind. Her personality shone like the light of a thousand white hot suns and all of the sudden he regretted trying to make nice with his boss.
Sorry for the lame whit hot sun metaphor but I’m tired and can’t think straight. Haven’t slept in a few days plus I’m sick. But anyway, this whole story with this guy begs the question: Is love blind? Obviously it is. Or in this case it is. This is a guy who could have anyone he wanted but was suddenly knocked on his ass by an average, unremarkable but not ugly looking girl with a personality that outshone her appearance by far. This guy has never been shallow. But he has been lucky enough to get girls who are the best of both worlds. He told me that he’s glad she’s only in town for a couple months. He figures that if something develops he has an escape built right into the relationship and if something doesn’t come of this wildly flirtatious encounter then he can put it out of his mind quickly. What I am trying to understand is why he is so confused. He can’t tell me of course. If he could tell me then he obviously wouldn’t be so confused. So what can be the deal? Is it that she’s not America’s Next Top Model? Personally, I think this girl is pretty. There’s nothing ugly about her at all. Maybe he’s just afraid of relationships period. Its been a while for him. Maybe it was how fast the whole thing developed. Or maybe this guy just likes her. Crushes do crazy things to people, especially unintentional ones. Personally, I think it was the crazy flirting that was going on. I mean, I saw him put on the charm but I also saw how surprised he was when she started getting up real close to him in his space. They were talking pretty quietly at times, so quietly in fact that they had to get up right next to each other in order to hear. And the brushing probably didn’t help. I could see how that just knocked him on his ass. Ladies, please understand the power of brushing up against a guy. Especially when you come up to say something to him and you brush your breasts against his arm. I saw that stuff happening and I just laughed inside and rooted for the guy.